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Family – The Angry Child

10 tips to empower parents.

Dear Slovie,

My 10-year-old son is getting increasingly out of hand. He yells out his demands and gets infuriated when they are not met. If I reprimand him or put him into time out, he takes out his anger on his siblings and me. He speaks very disrespectfully and tends to be quite negative. His behavior is detrimentally affecting everyone in the house. I am out of ideas. I would appreciate any advice you can give me; I am at my wits end.

Thank you,

Mom at the end of her rope

Slovie Jungreis-Wolff

Slovie's Answer 

There are times that we must deal with an angry child. The harder we try to inspire and guide, the more this child seems to pull away. As the gap between us grows, we find ourselves at a loss. We confront heavy silences, sudden outbursts, feeling estranged and a deep pain as harsh words are flung at us. Often we want to explode.

Here are 10 practical tips on how to deal with an angry child.

1. Don’t react to anger with anger.

 We accomplish nothing by losing our temper, yelling, or giving emotional ultimatums. When we are out of control, we say things we don’t mean. Often we are left with regret. We certainly don’t solve the problem and, in fact, we may cause greater damage. Parents who yell encourage children to yell back louder or retreat into a shell.

2. Don’t slap or get physical. 

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A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP

If you're not married, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it. More

 I wrote this story one night in December 2010 around one AM.  I couldn’t sleep.  My mind would not find rest.  Within ten months my younger sister had been diagnosed with stage four bone cancer, my mom had an open heart surgery and my dad past away unexpectedly.  More

Happiness. It’s something that we all want, but do we really appreciate what makes us happy? Like the concept of “success“, it is perhaps best that we understand what makes us happy, if only so that we don’t fall into the trap of chasing someone else’s version of the word.

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10 Early Signs of Parkinson's Disease That Doctors Often Miss

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1. Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself – George Bernard Shaw.

2. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover – Mark Twain.

3. Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds you plant - Robert Louis Stevenson.

4. We don’t see things the way they are. We see them the way WE are - Talmud.

5. I have found that if you love life, life will love you back - Arthur Rubinstein.

Relationship cheating is a very common occurrence. If you haven’t experienced it yet, there’s a good chance you eventually will. In this article we’ll explore how often cheating occurs, how to define cheating, signs of cheating, and how to deal with it.

Although I personally prefer non-monogamy, I opted to write this article using a monogamous perspective since that seems to be the more popular relationship paradigm. Given the frequency of cheating in monogamous relationships, it would appear that true monogamy isn’t as common as people would have each other believe.

Frequency of Cheating

I found it difficult to track down good cheating statistics. This seems to be partly because people have a hard time being completely honest, even when surveyed in ways that safeguard their anonymity. There’s still some shame and guilt associated with admitting the truth, even in private. So instead of sharing a bunch of detailed stats that might be wrong, I’ll simply share the big picture elements.

Slightly more than half of all married people will cheat on their spouses at some point in their lives. Men apparently cheat more often than women, but the gap isn’t huge.

Most of the time cheating does occur, the other spouse doesn’t know about it, with women being in the dark slightly more often than men.

That’s if you’re married. If you’re in a committed relationship but aren’t married, then I’d imagine that the odds of cheating are even higher. Partly I say that because cheating is more common when you’re younger and becomes less likely as you age.

The big game-changer here is the Internet, which makes even 10-year old stats seem very dated now. Recents surveys suggest that most people have flirted online at one point or another, that when people spend time in chat rooms they’re usually motivated by romantic or sexual interest, and that about a third of adults have had real sex as a result of a connection that began online.

In the USA alone, tens of millions of people cheat on their primary relationship partners. Cheating is very, very common. Most of the time when people cheat, they hide it from their partners, and they usually succeed in doing so, not because they’re so great at keeping secrets but mainly because their partners fail to recognize and acknowledge the telltale signs.

Suffice it to say that cheating is rampant.

Statistically speaking, if you get involved in committed relationships or marriage, the odds are better than 50-50 that you’re eventually going to cheat at some point in your life. And you’ll probably hide it from your primary partner, and you’ll probably get away with it.

Of course you can decline to join this group if you so desire. However, there’s still a good chance you’ll end up in a relationship with someone else who’s a member, and you probably won’t know. Or you’ll know, but you’ll retreat into denial about it.

Defining Cheating

What exactly constitutes cheating? Not everyone defines cheating the same way. Society may condition us to think of cheating a certain way, but deep down we may not feel the same.

Have a heart to heart talk with your partner, and define what you would consider cheating. Your answers don’t have to be the same.

Here are some items to think about.

Would you or your partner find it problematic if you…

• Have sexual thoughts about someone else
• Stare at someone attractive walking by when you’re with your partner
• Look at porn
• Masturbate to porn
• Masturbate while imagining having sex with someone else
• Have sex with your partner while visualizing sex with someone else
• Go to a strip club
• Get a lap dance
• Go dancing with someone you find attractive
• Have coffee and a long chat with someone you find attractive
• Go out to dinner and a show with someone you find attractive
• Hug someone
• Cuddle someone
• Cuddle someone naked
• Go on a vacation with someone
• Sleep in the same bed with someone
• Give or receive a foot massage
• Give or receive a full body massage
• Kiss someone lightly
• Kiss someone passionately
• French kiss someone
• Hot chat with someone
• Have phone sex with someone
• Buy an expensive gift for someone you’re attracted to
• Give or receive a hickey
• Suck someone’s breasts
• Engage in light petting with someone