Family – The Angry Child

10 tips to empower parents.

Dear Slovie,

My 10-year-old son is getting increasingly out of hand. He yells out his demands and gets infuriated when they are not met. If I reprimand him or put him into time out, he takes out his anger on his siblings and me. He speaks very disrespectfully and tends to be quite negative. His behavior is detrimentally affecting everyone in the house. I am out of ideas. I would appreciate any advice you can give me; I am at my wits end.

Thank you,

Mom at the end of her rope

Slovie Jungreis-Wolff

Slovie's Answer 

There are times that we must deal with an angry child. The harder we try to inspire and guide, the more this child seems to pull away. As the gap between us grows, we find ourselves at a loss. We confront heavy silences, sudden outbursts, feeling estranged and a deep pain as harsh words are flung at us. Often we want to explode.

Here are 10 practical tips on how to deal with an angry child.

1. Don’t react to anger with anger.

 We accomplish nothing by losing our temper, yelling, or giving emotional ultimatums. When we are out of control, we say things we don’t mean. Often we are left with regret. We certainly don’t solve the problem and, in fact, we may cause greater damage. Parents who yell encourage children to yell back louder or retreat into a shell.

2. Don’t slap or get physical. 

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