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The Secret Behind Attraction

   Have you ever liked someone at the first glance? At times, we can fall in love with someone or get attracted to someone at the very first look. Find out the real secret behind the attraction.

The secret behind the attraction

All our lives, we’re been told not to judge a book by the cover. We’ve been told that people shouldn’t be judged until we know them well enough.

These words may be told to you by the wisest and the greyest, but that still can’t stop you from going ahead and judging people by their faces.

And it’s not just you. Even the ones who told you not to do the judging can’t help but judge people at first glance.

So what do we call them? Hypocrites? Or perhaps, we should just blame our genes.

The first glance

How many times have you met someone and felt a sudden rush of emotions, good or bad? There may have been times when you felt uncomfortable hanging around someone new, and you couldn’t wait to get out of the room.

It may be your first date with a very cute guy or girl, but at times, we just can’t help it when our involuntary genes decide to kick in and make the plans for us on the very first look. More

Family – The Angry Child

10 tips to empower parents.

Dear Slovie,

My 10-year-old son is getting increasingly out of hand. He yells out his demands and gets infuriated when they are not met. If I reprimand him or put him into time out, he takes out his anger on his siblings and me. He speaks very disrespectfully and tends to be quite negative. His behavior is detrimentally affecting everyone in the house. I am out of ideas. I would appreciate any advice you can give me; I am at my wits end.

Thank you,

Mom at the end of her rope

Slovie Jungreis-Wolff

Slovie's Answer 

There are times that we must deal with an angry child. The harder we try to inspire and guide, the more this child seems to pull away. As the gap between us grows, we find ourselves at a loss. We confront heavy silences, sudden outbursts, feeling estranged and a deep pain as harsh words are flung at us. Often we want to explode.

Here are 10 practical tips on how to deal with an angry child.

1. Don’t react to anger with anger.

 We accomplish nothing by losing our temper, yelling, or giving emotional ultimatums. When we are out of control, we say things we don’t mean. Often we are left with regret. We certainly don’t solve the problem and, in fact, we may cause greater damage. Parents who yell encourage children to yell back louder or retreat into a shell.

2. Don’t slap or get physical. 

Many times I receive questions from parents about hitting. Usually it goes something like this:

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Why I Love My Wife

What is morality and deviance?

According to Encarta Dictionary, Morality is the accepted moral standards. It is a standard of conduct that is generally accepted as right or proper. It is the rightness or the wrongness of something as judged by accepted moral standards. While Deviance, It is different or unacceptable behavior. It is the behavior that is sharply different from customary, traditional, or generally accepted standard. 

The problem of morality in the Philippines is to consider the actual and prevailing norms of right and wrong among Filipinos. It is quite obvious that there is a conflict. It is between what they say as Christians and what they do as Filipinos. It is also between their actual Filipino behavior and their ideal Christian behavior; in short, between what is and what ought to be.

Some church people and laymen always talk about the lack of morality. More appropriately social morality/responsibility as it applies to our perennial, national political-economic crises. For 480 years and counting, most of us Filipinos have been taught or inherited the Catholic Christian (or any Christian variety) religion. For some reason, there obviously is something wrong in the inherited teaching or method of teaching. Since we supposed Filipino Christians have become superficial, truly nominal or "split-level" Christians (Fr. Jaime Bulatao, SJ  1960s).

My Daughter My Baby

April 11,2013...it is 12:30am and my cell More